You Think, Ergo You Are

Whenever I meet people, I will observe their characters, how they act, how they react, and how they think.

My observation is:

You are what you think you are

In other words:

Your current status (financial, emotional, companionship, etc.) is the consequences of your thoughts

To make things more solid, let's start with me, myself. I am, because I am thinking about this thought (as per Descartes) now. I take the 'negation' of myself to denote all external elements (the world, the universe, etc.).

We have two mutually exclusive elements, namely 'myself' and 'the external world'. The union of these will form a complete universe. Note 'the external world' can be defined on demand later, so I purposely leave it wide-open.

My argument is this: most of time we are defined solely by ourselves

Take myself as example, in Penang I don't have many friends, and in weekends I usually stay home. A lot of people think I am a poor soul of not having any company. I used to think in that way, too. However after some thoughts, I understand the problem and enlightened. There isn't anybody I know around here that worths my time (well, Fookie can be counted as one actually, but I usually don't pull people who have home-cookings out for meals). I am not trying to be a snob, but it is really hard to find someone who has similar interests as mine. For the guys, their main interests will be _only_ on the latest handphone models, women, sex, movies, and more women. Although my current colleagues are of much higher quality than the previous bunch, still there is still gap that I can't mend. Therefore my thoughts dictate my actions not to waste my time with them, as a consequence, I don't have many friends around. Fair enough.

Next, do you have friends or relatives who only barely make ends meet? I do. If you go closer and really observe how this person acts and thinks, you will find out the problem usually is not due to the failure of capitalism system; it stems from how that person manages and handles money.

The last example will be on relationship. There are a lot of single persons around. I have heard complaints after complaints of being lonely and the hardship of getting someone significant.

For some cases it is due to the inherent (asinine) social restrictions that force certain people (read: ladies) to remain passive and wait. However, in most cases I do think the problem again stems on how that person interacts and behaves. Egotism is the most common syndrome I have seen so far.